Jeremy Lin – Representin

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"White men can't jump...But look at this Asian boy's hops!"

There are very few Asian role models in American pop culture today. I can count only one true Asian role model in my lifetime and that’s Bruce Lee. Everyone else in movies, sports, music, TV, and entertainment have been less than spectacular and presented as a buffoon. This is why I’m ecstatic in seeing the sudden meteoric rise of Jeremy Lin of the NBA. He’s incredible and a huge sensation in the world of pro basketball.

I always thought Yao Ming was soft but I think Lin is the real deal – a bonafide baller who has been smoking all the stars of the NBA, including Kobe Bryant.

This is a great boost to the image of Asian men in the media. Yes Asians typically excel in math and science. But us Asians (Lin) can play in a sports dominated by black men. Ever since the other two stars of the New York Knicks have been injured, Jeremy Lin has been filling in very nicely. Let’s see what they do once the other two stars return.

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"Kobe...rapist, recently divorced, victim of no prenup"

FYI: Our SAM site was down a few days due to a virus

Hi Faithful,

Just wanted to explain ourselves.  For about three days this week, our site was down.   It was between January 20th and the 23rd, and we were back up this morning.  Our account was infected with a malware virus, but it’s fixed now.  But, we lost a few days worth of comments.  😦  Lame.  But, Hitler will never take us down!   Thanks for reading and keep participating!


Are you a hugger, SAM?

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Growing up, my parents didn’t really show much affection.  Though they weren’t shy about showing a lot of anger and disdain at one another!   😛  It was definitely a messed up marriage, and I don’t think I ever saw them kiss or hug.  I think that affected my own way of expressing myself with friends and girlfriends.  I actually express myself naturally with the women I’ve dated, but of course it’s always a little awkward when you’re in courtship.  But, once I was in an official relationship, it just felt right to hold hands, kiss, and hug, etc…

When I was growing up, I was pretty stoic when it came to friends and colleagues.  I grew up in the states, and people here like to hug.  As a guy raised by stoic Asian parents, I felt awkward in these situations.  Continue reading

I’m Dreaming of an Asian Christmas!


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Merry Xmas SAMs! If Santa looked like this, I wouldn't mind sitting on the lap...or vice versa.

Hey, everyone.  The year is winding down, and the city streets are lined with colored lights, and red and green decorations.  It’s Christmas time!  I really enjoy the nostalgic atmosphere of Christmas.  The old Christmas standards with the smooth, mellow baritones hark back to an older, simpler time.  And, I love the colorful Christmas lights that light up the dark, winter nights.  But, what I want to know is.  How do YOU celebrate Christmas, SAMs?  How do Asian immigrants celebrate this time of year?

Growing up, my family did celebrate Christmas, though we are not Christians.  We were lower middle class financially speaking, so we had a modest amount of presents, nothing to brag about.  Perhaps a few CDs, or a few clothes.  Nothing extravagant, and I never asked for big ticket items knowing our financial situation. 

Older white man seeking love from younger Asian women from Asia

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Really? Really?

So one thing that bothers me is when I see a much younger Asian woman, who can barely speak English, married or dating a much older white guy. This to me, in its entirety, represents all that is wrong such as the exploitation of Asians, the difference in socioeconomic class, race, Asian fetish (yellow fever), and past colonialism and American imperialism. This is quite common among white U.S. military guys who are stationed in Asian countries. But it’s also quite common whereby the older white guy literally moves to an Asian country and shack up with a much younger Asian woman in Asia.

Older white guy’s perspective:
I’m old, have a pot belly, hair is thinning out, divorced, my kids are grown, and I am single, lonely, horny, and ready for love. And I do love Asian women. I’ve got some money saved up and I’m having a hard time getting a date. I’ve looked online for Russian brides but the agencies initial setup fees are very expensive. Oh I know…I’ll go to Southeast Asia and find me a younger poor Asian girl! The U.S. dollar can be stretched so far in Vietnam, Cambodia, or even the Phillipines. And the women there love white foreigners. Here, I’m just a wrinkly old fart but there, I’m motherfuckin rock star.

Younger Southeast Asian woman’s perspective:
I’m unwed, have no kids, dirt poor, live in the rural village, and looking for a husband…a better life, a way out of this peasant hell hole. I can easily marry a fellow poor farmer here but I want a step-up. I want someone with money and who is of a higher status here and elsewhere…such as a Westerner. In their eyes, I’m a princess. I can’t speak English at all and the western foreigner can’t speak my language either. But that’s okay because our love has no boundaries. Everybody around me will be envious of me that I”m with a wealthy westerner.

Check out this article (from NPR News) on interracial marriages in Cambodia:

Cambodia Tries To Curb Foreign Men Seeking Wives

On any given night, foreign visitors throng the many bars, restaurants and hotels overlooking the Tonle Sap River on bustling Sisowath Quay in Phnom Penh, the Cambodian capital. Among them, foreign men accompanied with Cambodian women are a common sight.

Just up the street is Rory’s Pub, where a Celtic cross and a Bushmills whiskey sign hang on the wall.

“It’s really nice here; it’s a very laid-back city,” observes the pub’s owner, 45-year-old Seattle native Chad Foucher. “There’s plenty of things to do. It’s cheap to live here, and I think that’s the draw for people to come here and live.”

Also working behind the bar is Foucher’s 23-year-old Cambodian wife, whom he married last year.

Foucher says that’s a good thing, too, since the government issued new rules governing marriage between foreign men and Cambodian women this spring. They include a minimum monthly salary requirement — which Foucher says he might not have met.

New Rules Aimed At Human Trafficking

In the more than three decades since the fall of the Khmer Rouge, Cambodia’s society has seen vast changes. In traditional Cambodian society, arranged marriages were the norm, divorce was taboo and international marriages were rare.

But the recent surge in international marriages hit a speed bump with the new regulations, which the government says are aimed at preventing human trafficking. Now, the rules say, foreign men who want to marry Cambodian women must be under 50 years old and make more than $2,550 a month.

Cambodia’s Foreign Ministry, which issued the rules, explained it as an attempt to prevent sex trafficking and pedophilia, both of which are serious problems in Cambodia and are exacerbated by widespread, grinding poverty.

The English-language Phnom Penh Post quoted Foreign Ministry spokesman Koy Kuong as offering another explanation for the regulation.

“We want people getting married to look like proper couples,” he said, not “like a grandfather and a granddaughter.”

Misguided Strategy?

The phenomenon of older foreign men with younger local women unsettles some Cambodians, including Mu Sochua, a liberal member of parliament, who happens to be married to an American.

“My gut feeling is when I see a difference in age — a very young woman, almost a child, with an older man — in this culture, if he is a foreigner, it’s for sure: She is bought,” Mu says.

That said, Mu opposes the new rule. She believes the best way to help Khmer women is to educate them and empower them to make more informed choices about marriage.

Ou Virak, president of the Cambodian Center for Human Rights, suggests that rather than getting into the business of dictating public morality, the Cambodian government would do better to just enforce existing laws against human trafficking.

“When are we going to police marriage? When are we going to say what couples would look good together?” he asks. “Should the state get into that business? And of course, looking at the past, during the Khmer Rouge when marriages were arranged by the Khmer Rouge, by the state.”

Critics say the new rule simply serves to reinforce women’s traditional powerlessness in choosing a spouse. According to the 2005 Cambodia Demographic and Health Survey, which surveyed nearly 17,000 women across the country, 52 percent of Cambodian women said they did not participate at all in the choice of a husband; 27 percent married a man they had never seen before, or had just met within the past month.

But attitudes among Cambodia’s young are evolving quickly. The wife of bar owner Foucher, Men Soey Leap, says that she doesn’t feel bound by Cambodia’s male-dominated cultural traditions, and when she disagrees with her husband, she lets him know it.

“If my husband wants me to do this, do this, I say, ‘OK, I can do for you,’ ” she says. “But sometimes, no. I think: some good, some not. I can decide.”

Issues Of Enforceability, Unintended Consequences

Foucher doesn’t think much of the rule, and he points out that it will be hard to enforce since couples can just get married overseas, instead of in Cambodia.

“I think it’s kind of stupid because people are going to find a way, if they’re in love, to get married one way or another,” he says.

Ou, the human rights activist, says the rule is inconsistent, because it doesn’t apply to Cambodian men who can marry women of any nationality, age and income range they like.

He adds that the rule could have some absurd consequences.

“What happens if the woman is actually two years younger but the guy is over the 50 age limit?” he asks.

But Phay Siphan, Cambodia’s chief Cabinet spokesman, says critics should not get too exercised about the rule. He says that anyone who doesn’t like it can challenge it in court.

“It doesn’t mean I’m encouraging people to sue my government,” he says. “But Cambodian citizens have a right to go to court to protect their rights, the right to choose anyone as their husband and wife.”

Phay adds that the rule may even be struck down some day as unconstitutional.

Asian Americans bullied the most in the US? How to fight back.

Asian American Flag: Asian Americans Unite and Fight Bullying

Asian Americans Unite and Fight Bullying

Recently very upsetting news reached my ears.  Asian American kids in the U.S. are the most bullied out of all the races.

The research, to be released on Saturday, found that 54 percent of Asian American teenagers said they were bullied in the classroom, sharply above the 31.3 percent of whites who reported being picked on.
The figure was 38.4 percent for African Americans and 34.3 percent for Hispanics, a government researcher involved in the data analysis told AFP. He requested anonymity because the data has not been made public.
The disparity was even more striking for cyber-bullying.
Some 62 percent of Asian Americans reported online harassment once or twice a month, compared with 18.1 percent of whites. The researcher said more study was needed on why the problem is so severe among Asian Americans.  (Full Article)

But, I’m not surprised.  Many immigrant parents come to the states, and spend way too much time focusing on money.  The father is busy running the restaurant, or working in software.  The tiger mom is strict and forcing their kids to get perfect grades, learn piano or violin, and get scholarships.  These kids are so stressed out, all they can do is put their heads down and study hard.  Their social skills suffer, and they have trouble assimilating since the values their parents teach them are incompatible with American society.  They feel alone and embarrassed since they feel no support from the home, and they just can’t seem to fit in at school.   Continue reading

Advice to SAMs: Be a Geek

Geeks and Nerds Asian Style

It seems that a lot of Asian and Asian-American guys think they have the opposite problem, that they are too geeky, or at least perceived as such. However, from the perspective of a girl who has dated, dumped, and been dumped by a succession of you, it is vastly better to be a geek than not.

Geeks are sexy. It is hot when a guy is passionate, knowledgeable, and deeply into something. And off-putting when he doesn’t seem to care about anything with particular intensity. Continue reading

A quick recap of my Asian American experience as a SAM

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So I wanted to share with you all several experiences I had this past 2 weeks related to me being Asian:

  • BBQ at friend’s house:
    I went to an outdoor BBQ and while I was playing volleyball with the rest of the people, this one white dude whom I know just as an acquiantance kept saying “Go Mr. Miyagi!” and “Get that ball Miygai!” everytime I hit the ball. Nice right? Trust me, I look nothing like Mr. Miyagi or Pat Morita. And yeah, I was the only Asian person there and most of the white people were blue collar and/or rednecks. My first mistake – going to this BBQ.

  • Goodbye party for a friend:
    I went to a farewell party/dinner for a friend who was moving and there was this one obnoxious white guy who kept saying “Hey Ninja!” and “Miyagi go Karate!”. Why God do I have to put up with this? Why Miyagi? I fuckin hate that movie “The Karate Kid”. And he went on to say “You Asians are always screwing each other over” and “You Asians are always fighting with each other”. I got so mad that I whipped out my nunchuks and clonked him on his head but not before I did a chop suey across his chest. Hiya!

  • At the coffee shop on a lazy Sunday afternoon:
    I was sitting at a coffee shop just minding my own business when this white guy approached me and said “Ahn Young Ha Sae Yo!” I looked up and just smiled awkwardly. Mind you, I’ve encountered this before many times where an overly excited white person who happens to know a phrase or two in Korean or whatever has the urgent and desperate need to showcase their linguistic “talents”. This always annoys me though. First off, I’m not impressed. Second, if you’re going to say that to me in Korean, you better bow too motherfucker because I’m older than you. Third, leave leave leave me alone! Americans typically know only one language and some would argue that some don’t even know proper English at all. So when they happen to pick up a phrase in a foreign language they think they’re the shits all of a sudden. But all they really have done is butcher the Asian language. Hey, when I came to the U.S. as a young lad, did I go around saying “Howdy Partner!” to every white person?

  • On the bus way to work:
    This one happens to me from time to time – White person tells me with suprise “Wow, your English is pretty good!” LOL. Wow, I sure do hope my English is good since I grew up here in the U.S.

  • On a date with a white girl I met online:
    I get this all the time from white girls – “Wow, you’re pretty tall for an Asian guy” (I’m 6). I tell them, “Wow, you’re pretty slim for a white girl”.

  • Random guy at the tennis court:
    I had this one white person ask me “I’ve visited China recently and hardly saw any Chinese people on bikes.” Really? So he thought everybody in China still rides bicycles around like the good old days. Amazing.

Moral Decadence in China due to capitalism, rising materialism and wealth?

UPDATE: 2 year old baby has died – Click here

<a href="Yueyue, a 2-year-old, moments before she is hit by a truck in Foshan City in China

I’ve heard some Chinese Americans tell me that the Chinese people tend to be selfish and not altruistic. They tend to be self-absorbed and willing to scrutinize and judge other Chinese rather than help them. They tend to look at other Chinese as competition rather than have the common unified sense of community.

So when I read this horrible story, it reminded me of the things that several Chinese people have told me, here on this site and in person from friends, acquintances, etc. It was basically a hit and run by 2 vehicles and the hapless victim was a 2 year old baby. No one helped the baby who was lying in a pool of blood and now the baby is brain dead now and will most likely die. At least a dozen people just walked around the baby!

This incident has sparked a focus on the supposedly declining moral values of Chinese society due to capitalism, money, profits, materialism, and overall increase in affluence. There is a public outrage at the very public who failed to help.

Is it fair to blame materialism, increasing wealth, and money for this type of behavior. Certainly, this has been known to occur in the already prosperous U.S. but it usually compromises of victims who are the homeless.

I was told that the Chinese are notorious for not looking out for other fellow Chinese people. That they only look out for themselves and that they like to see other Chinese fail so they can feel better about themselves. And all this was told by a Chinese person! Is this true? Do you agree? Is this a form of Asian on Asian crime?

Click here for the news article on CBS

I got stereotyped by a dumb white waitress! Damn!


"Recommendations? Since you're Asian, I'm sure you'll love our teriyaki burger!"

Recently I went to a trendy burger joint with a bunch of buddies for lunch.  There were about six of us including two East Asians, a half Asian, a Hispanic guy, a Hispanic guy, and a token white guy.  Looking at the menu, I decided I wanted to be daring and try the burger with the habanero pepper mayo.  For those who don’t know, the habanero pepper is one of the spiciest on the planet, being thousands of times hotter than the jalapeno.  But, I really wanted to try it.  When the waitress came to take our orders, I was still unsure if I wanted to try the burger or not because it was after all habanero!  But, I was thinking perhaps they took the flavor of habanero and infused it into this mayo to make it tasty but still edible.

So, it was my turn as she went around the table.  She was a young Caucasian waitress in her early 20s.

“So, what do you want”, she asked.
“I want the burger with the habanero mayo on it.  But, I’m a little worried.  How spicy is the habanero mayo?”  Her response was really unexpected, and very strange.
“You’re Asian, I’m sure you can handle it”, she said! Continue reading