Older white man seeking love from younger Asian women from Asia

Really? Really?

So one thing that bothers me is when I see a much younger Asian woman, who can barely speak English, married or dating a much older white guy. This to me, in its entirety, represents all that is wrong such as the exploitation of Asians, the difference in socioeconomic class, race, Asian fetish (yellow fever), and past colonialism and American imperialism. This is quite common among white U.S. military guys who are stationed in Asian countries. But it’s also quite common whereby the older white guy literally moves to an Asian country and shack up with a much younger Asian woman in Asia.

Older white guy’s perspective:
I’m old, have a pot belly, hair is thinning out, divorced, my kids are grown, and I am single, lonely, horny, and ready for love. And I do love Asian women. I’ve got some money saved up and I’m having a hard time getting a date. I’ve looked online for Russian brides but the agencies initial setup fees are very expensive. Oh I know…I’ll go to Southeast Asia and find me a younger poor Asian girl! The U.S. dollar can be stretched so far in Vietnam, Cambodia, or even the Phillipines. And the women there love white foreigners. Here, I’m just a wrinkly old fart but there, I’m motherfuckin rock star.

Younger Southeast Asian woman’s perspective:
I’m unwed, have no kids, dirt poor, live in the rural village, and looking for a husband…a better life, a way out of this peasant hell hole. I can easily marry a fellow poor farmer here but I want a step-up. I want someone with money and who is of a higher status here and elsewhere…such as a Westerner. In their eyes, I’m a princess. I can’t speak English at all and the western foreigner can’t speak my language either. But that’s okay because our love has no boundaries. Everybody around me will be envious of me that I”m with a wealthy westerner.

Check out this article (from NPR News) on interracial marriages in Cambodia:

Cambodia Tries To Curb Foreign Men Seeking Wives

On any given night, foreign visitors throng the many bars, restaurants and hotels overlooking the Tonle Sap River on bustling Sisowath Quay in Phnom Penh, the Cambodian capital. Among them, foreign men accompanied with Cambodian women are a common sight.

Just up the street is Rory’s Pub, where a Celtic cross and a Bushmills whiskey sign hang on the wall.

“It’s really nice here; it’s a very laid-back city,” observes the pub’s owner, 45-year-old Seattle native Chad Foucher. “There’s plenty of things to do. It’s cheap to live here, and I think that’s the draw for people to come here and live.”

Also working behind the bar is Foucher’s 23-year-old Cambodian wife, whom he married last year.

Foucher says that’s a good thing, too, since the government issued new rules governing marriage between foreign men and Cambodian women this spring. They include a minimum monthly salary requirement — which Foucher says he might not have met.

New Rules Aimed At Human Trafficking

In the more than three decades since the fall of the Khmer Rouge, Cambodia’s society has seen vast changes. In traditional Cambodian society, arranged marriages were the norm, divorce was taboo and international marriages were rare.

But the recent surge in international marriages hit a speed bump with the new regulations, which the government says are aimed at preventing human trafficking. Now, the rules say, foreign men who want to marry Cambodian women must be under 50 years old and make more than $2,550 a month.

Cambodia’s Foreign Ministry, which issued the rules, explained it as an attempt to prevent sex trafficking and pedophilia, both of which are serious problems in Cambodia and are exacerbated by widespread, grinding poverty.

The English-language Phnom Penh Post quoted Foreign Ministry spokesman Koy Kuong as offering another explanation for the regulation.

“We want people getting married to look like proper couples,” he said, not “like a grandfather and a granddaughter.”

Misguided Strategy?

The phenomenon of older foreign men with younger local women unsettles some Cambodians, including Mu Sochua, a liberal member of parliament, who happens to be married to an American.

“My gut feeling is when I see a difference in age — a very young woman, almost a child, with an older man — in this culture, if he is a foreigner, it’s for sure: She is bought,” Mu says.

That said, Mu opposes the new rule. She believes the best way to help Khmer women is to educate them and empower them to make more informed choices about marriage.

Ou Virak, president of the Cambodian Center for Human Rights, suggests that rather than getting into the business of dictating public morality, the Cambodian government would do better to just enforce existing laws against human trafficking.

“When are we going to police marriage? When are we going to say what couples would look good together?” he asks. “Should the state get into that business? And of course, looking at the past, during the Khmer Rouge when marriages were arranged by the Khmer Rouge, by the state.”

Critics say the new rule simply serves to reinforce women’s traditional powerlessness in choosing a spouse. According to the 2005 Cambodia Demographic and Health Survey, which surveyed nearly 17,000 women across the country, 52 percent of Cambodian women said they did not participate at all in the choice of a husband; 27 percent married a man they had never seen before, or had just met within the past month.

But attitudes among Cambodia’s young are evolving quickly. The wife of bar owner Foucher, Men Soey Leap, says that she doesn’t feel bound by Cambodia’s male-dominated cultural traditions, and when she disagrees with her husband, she lets him know it.

“If my husband wants me to do this, do this, I say, ‘OK, I can do for you,’ ” she says. “But sometimes, no. I think: some good, some not. I can decide.”

Issues Of Enforceability, Unintended Consequences

Foucher doesn’t think much of the rule, and he points out that it will be hard to enforce since couples can just get married overseas, instead of in Cambodia.

“I think it’s kind of stupid because people are going to find a way, if they’re in love, to get married one way or another,” he says.

Ou, the human rights activist, says the rule is inconsistent, because it doesn’t apply to Cambodian men who can marry women of any nationality, age and income range they like.

He adds that the rule could have some absurd consequences.

“What happens if the woman is actually two years younger but the guy is over the 50 age limit?” he asks.

But Phay Siphan, Cambodia’s chief Cabinet spokesman, says critics should not get too exercised about the rule. He says that anyone who doesn’t like it can challenge it in court.

“It doesn’t mean I’m encouraging people to sue my government,” he says. “But Cambodian citizens have a right to go to court to protect their rights, the right to choose anyone as their husband and wife.”

Phay adds that the rule may even be struck down some day as unconstitutional.

5 Reasons More Ladies Should Date Asian Men

I don’t know if you can handle us Asian guys…

Asian guys are just like other guys in that they come in all shapes, sizes, and personalities.  American media will try to stereotype us as either geeks or comedians or martial artists, but Asians guys are so diverse and multifaceted.  It’s very apparent if you watch movies or TV shows from Asia.  They can be rebels, funny, romantic, intelligent, mysterious, sensitive, thoughtful, and so much more.

Despite the diversity, I think that there are some common positive traits that Asian guys tend to have due to common cultural influences and upbringing.  Especially since Asian countries tend to focus on community and familial thinking, many of these traits deal with maintaining harmony in relationships.  What that means for the ladies is that Asian guys are good at getting along and they aren’t as self-centered as some American guys.  Here are 5 traits that most Asian men I know exhibit.

1. Hardworking – Asians men are raised with a strong work ethic because many immigrant parents realize that the only way to compete in a foreign country is to work your yellow ass off!  

Why do Asians eat more fish than white people?

why don't white people eat fish like this?

I’m Japanese American, and my wife is Japanese.  We cook fish all the time.  Tonight we had wild salmon, we have mackerel in the fridge, and there are some dried fish snacks in my pantry.  While I was eating recently, I think I finally understood why Americans don’t eat much fish.

I used to think that the reason Asians eat more fish than Americans was geography.  America is a big country with a vast inland.  People living in places like Kansas are less likely to have access to fish, especially from the sea.  With their large pastures, Americans have learned to raise livestock like cows, pigs, and chickens.  On the other hand, Japan is a large island surrounded by an ocean full of fish.  Not having the vast lands the US has, they rely much more on fish than livestock.  And the bountiful seas there provide all sorts of fish: mackerel, halibut, tuna, snapper, cod, bonito, and more.

Wendi Deng…gold digger, lover of old rich white men, homewrecker

"I aint sayin she's a gold digger, but she aint messin with no broke..."

Wendi Deng, the much younger Chinese wife of the very wealthy old fossil known as Rupert Murdoch…has been in the news of late. They call her the “Tiger Wife” now and a national heroine because she defiantly tried to protect her prehistoric husband from some crazy guy trying to throw shaving cream at the old dinosaur. I, on the other hand, call her an Asian gold digger…she’s 42 and he’s 8,345,345 yrs old. He looks like the offspring between Jabba the Hut and Miss Piggy. But he’s got money, lots of it…much more than you can possibly fathom. He’s the CEO and Chairman of News Corp. He’s Oprah times 10. He owns the majority of U.S. news and media consumers.

White people love to make the yuck face

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the yuck face

I’ve seen it so many times when an American is offered foreign food, or when someone mentions something they don’t like.  Look, everyone has a right to dislike something, and I know to a certain extent it’s a reaction.  But, it’s rude to make the yuck face period, and as an adult you should practice self-control and not do it, especially around strangers or when you are in a foreign country.  I felt embarrassed so many times in Japan when an American colleague would make the yuck face at someone who offered them something different and refused to try.  So immature and wrong.  It’s fine to say no to an offer of food, but I think it’s rude to make the face.  To me, the face says, “Gross! I can’t believe you eat that shit!”

Self-centered as many Americans are, they seem to think it’s the food’s fault when they don’t like the taste.   The fact that many people like the foods you dislikes means that it’s something about YOU that doesn’t mix with the food.   Honestly, I think it’s a result of bad parenting.  Parents need to expose kids to lots of different foods and cultures, and teach kids to be polite when they come across food they don’t like.  Of course, your food habits are often inherited from your parents, and if they were eating nothing but hot dogs and hamburgers and crap food, you probably weren’t exposed to various flavors, and have a retarded palate. Yes, your tongue is retarded.  I remember seeing a documentary on Marilyn Manson going to Tokyo.  He went searching for a McDonald’s because he didn’t want to try anything new.  Unbelievable considering all the great food that is in Tokyo.  For a guy who wants to be outrageous and cutting edge, his eating habits were so tame and backward.

As a rule, I think you should try everything before you reject it.  There’s some great foods out there.  I found a delicious salumi deli that made great beef tongue salami sandwiches.  Blood sausage, sea urchin, octopus, fishheads, intestines, chicken feet, etc…  Learn to love it.  If you can’t, just smile and say no thanks.

so good

My Oklahomie – good intentions show racial ignorance

It cracks me up every time I think about it.  My buddy from Oklahoma and I went to get a quick bite before a concert, and found a teriyaki joint.  His girlfriend was also with us.  After I order my meal, he orders for himself, after which he bows to the Asian guy at the register and says, ‘arigatou gozaimasu’.  Being Japanese, I could tell that the man was definitely not Japanese, and he wasn’t pleased.   Probably Korean.  Even my friend’s  girlfriend felt embarrassed.   It cracked me up, and I still bring it up to this day.  Ah, bless his white soul…

For unlimited Asian ass, all white men please apply to “teach” English in Asia

"3 chicks at the same time...I love Korea, but most of all, Korea loves me"

In the old days, American men had bridal catalogs of foreign Asian women – those who were willing to come to the U.S. through marriage to a white man. Of course they still have these even today but they mostly target Eastern European women such as Russia and the Czech Republic. But nowadays, white men go directly to Asia…to “teach” English!

White men who join “English Teachers” organizations that take them to Asian countries to become English “teachers” pretty much go there to get laid by as many Asian women as possible, teach them the ABC’s, and bring them back to marry. Not all but most. It’s the perfect setup – room and board are paid for, they get a salary, and in the meantime, they get to enjoy a buffet of Asian hotties who view the western man as the sexiest thing since George Clooney. And I assure you, these white fellows get plenty of ass down in Japan, Korea, and all over China. Do these men go to the Phillipines or Vietnam? Hells no! If they go, they want the best poon that the ABC’s can buy and the best of course reside in East Asia. To them, East Asia is like a giant pussy, just waiting for them, with their short bowl-legged legs spread apart, with tattoos all along it saying “This Way John Doe!”

Granted…there are white men who actually sincerely love the Asian culture and the people and just want to be a part of it. I can respect that. They learn the language, learn to speak it, and learn its rich history, all the while, being respectful to Asian peeps. But even they want a little raw sushi from time to time, so they end up dating the native Asian women. I mean, why not? I would too if I was them. So I don’t blame them.

What sucks I think is that sometimes, I think these Asian women just make it too easy for these white men. The word spreads around and white men flock to these countries. It’s like the organizations that set up these joints are advertising: “$800 airfare to Japan, room & board all paid for, professional English institute environment, and unlimited tight Asian vaginas ready for you to pummel”.

I’ve never heard of an Asian boy coming to the U.s. to teach Korean and getting laid by hundreds of beautiful DD blonds. Have you? No…they come here, can barely speak English, starting taking classes for the TOEFL, and end up only hanging out with other Asian male virgins. None of them ever even try to date a hot white girl. Shit, they can barely talk. They all sound like Shorty from Indian Jones – “doctor jones! doctor jones!”

Why are you so polite SAM? (Asian men too polite)

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One thing when you’re raised in a traditional Asian home is that you learn to obey your elders.  It can be a good thing, but it can also give you bad habits since your values at home will conflict with what is the norm out in White society.  By obeying elders, you give them all your power and decision-making rights.  This may work to keep harmony in the house, but when you do this in white society, you’re perceived as weak and a pushover.  In the states, you gotta be tough, you gottta challenge the status quo, and you gotta speak up to get what’s yours.  The worst thing you can be is a polite, quiet, model minority who follows orders, because most of your managers are probably white dumbasses with a lot of stupid ideas that need to be checked.  You should respect your elders, but respect is earned, and if they have weak ideas, they should be challenged.  It’s for everyone’s sake: yours and theirs.

Black people are really outspoken, and they get what they want.  They are raised to hustle.  They go for what they want, and they learn to negotiate and be persistent.  Asian people tend to give up after one ‘No’, but black people will continue to push for what they want since they understand they got nothing to lose.  I really respect that part of their culture.  When they’re mad, they will vent.  When they want the attention of a girl, they’ll act.  And, many a time, they GET.

White person please! Don’t recommend a sushi restaurant to a Japanese!

She probably had McDonalds on the way to work

Sushi is the rage.  Sushi is exotic, it’s delicious, it’s classy, and it’s cool.  Every major city in the US now has sushi, and Seattle is no exception.  People here love it!  There’s not only classic sushi restaurants, but also three or four conveyor-belt sushi chains.  The demand is so high!  Now, every now and then, there will be talk about which sushi restaurants people like, and you know how outspoken white people are!  They love to voice their opinions, and they’ll start telling me which sushi restaurants are their favorites. “Oh, you gotta try Mashiko!  It’s the best!”  Or, “My favorite place is Hiroshi’s” or “Wasabi Bistro is the best sushi in town!”.  Now, I have had an open mind and have taken their word and tried these various places my Caucasian friends and coworkers have told me about.  And sure enough, I’m disappointed every fuckin’ time!

Conclusion.  White people don’t know sushi.  Just like you don’t ask a black man to teach you how to swim, you don’t ask a white person to tell you where to get the best raw fish. 

Asian Habits: I quietly agree…NOT!

shush

I read an interesting book on the fear of confrontation, and the effects of what happens when you don’t speak up.  I never thought about it, but in the USA, if you don’t speak up, it implies to others that you agree with them.  Whether you’re in a group of friends or at work, if you sit there quietly and don’t voice your opinion, it is implied that you agree with the opinions of the outspoken ones.  I didn’t really realize this.  In my Japanese American upbringing, I somehow learned to be non-confrontational, and I would be quiet even when I disagreed with what was going on.  I’ve been this way since childhood, and it’s only recently that I realized what I was doing, and what that implies here in the states.  In Japan, I think silence can mean both agreement and disagreement.  But in the states, I guess it’s viewed as agreement. So, basically, I have been misunderstood all these years!  Shit.

What this means to me is that I have to speak up and assert my differences wherever I am.  Not to confront, but to voice my opinion just so people don’t assume I agree with everyone.  More often than not I disagree.  In Japan, people are very good at sensing what others feel and think.  They are almost telepathic.  Here in the states, people are so self-centered that they can’t imagine what is going on in other people’s heads.  So, in a culture like this, you gotta speak up, SAM.